Should I go through with the wedding?
My fiance cheated on me with my friend and after a year he made it up to me by taking me in a hot air balloon and having a sky writer spell out my name and say ''Im sorry'' then 5 months later we went out for dinner at McDonald's(I know it doesn't sound romantic but its where we met) and he proposed to me for a second time.My mam and dad don't approve and they say once a cheater always a cheater and my friends say Im too good for him.I used to love him until he broke my heart with a friend who I thought I could trust.We picked out the venue and my dress is beautiful its 5 days before the wedding and Im getting cold feet.I keep thinking he will cheat again and ruin my life and my future and that I might be able to meet someone who I can depend on to be faithful.Im so confused I just need somebody to answer the question for me should I go through with the wedding?
You need to have trust in a relationship.
Can you learn to trust him again?
If you can't answer the question with a yes, then I think you know what you should do.
i think you should have walked walked away sooner. but he broke your heart once before it wont matter if you break his, if you feel you wont be able to be happy with him then just tell him you cant go on wiht it anymore. its better for you to follow your heart now then regret it later.
If you have these doubts I'd seriously think about going ahead with it.
You don't want to end up married to him and always wondering where he is and who he is with.
I wouldn't. People don't change. Even if he didn't do it again he would still think about it.
To be honest, I don't know you but i think your friends and family are right. When your family and friends tell you he is no good there he is no good. But you also have to see it your way, if you really love him and feel that he has change then by all means take that risk and marry him. But I do agree once a cheater always a cheater. And if he isn't married to you now do you think when you are married that he will not cheat? Ask yourself, will he be worth the pain if he does cheat when you could have walked the other way?
Good luck, I hope the best for you!
Personally, I would not go through with it. I don't agree that a cheater will always cheat again, but I will tell you that your feelings of insecurity could taint your marriage. Even a good marriage is hard at times, and you don't need the added misgivings that come from marrying a man who you don't feel you can trust completely. Marriage is a big commitment -- probably the biggest of your life. If you have reservations, either call it off or ask for more time to sort out your feelings until you feel completely comfortable with your course of action.
If he only has to do some cute stupid s*** to get you to forgive him for CHEATING on you, what in the world makes you think that he won't do it again?
He had no repercussions for cheating on you so I wouldn't think he would hesitate to do it again. All he would have to do is buy you some flowers and sing to you for you to forgive him again. At least that's what I think he's going to think the next time he's tempted to cheat on you again.
I don't necessarily believe in once a cheater always a cheater. I believe someone can cheat on someone, break up with them, and then never cheat on their new partner, but I have a really hard time believing that someone who is taken back after cheating on their partner will stop. Especially if there was no severe punishment that would serve as a deterrent for them not to cheat again.
I couldn't marry someone I didn't trust. Talk to your fiance. Express your fears to him. If you have cold feet then you need to work it out with him, not random people who don't know you or him on the internet.
Leave him and never look back. I know it will be extremely hard and lonesome at times, but trust me, every time he's out without you you're going to be wondering if he's cheating on you and that's NO way to live! You have to know that there is someone else out there for you who will put you on the pedestal you deserve. Don't worry about the venue and the dress. And as far as I'm concerned, if you took the time to come post a question about if you should continue getting married to someone...you've just answered your own question :) I'm sorry that he cheated on you but PLEASE don't go through with it, good luck!
